Thanksgiving, My Grace

I’ve been, naturally, thinking about the whole thankfulness concept, and what, in particular am I thankful/grateful for right now. I was reminded of the mess we went through with child #4 starting when he was about a year old. He had allergies, serious ones: to cats, cockroaches, and dust mites. When I say serious, I mean serious.

His skin was literally falling off in quarter and half-dollar sized chunks, like something out of an Austin Powers movie. In the creases of his knees and elbows the skin would crack and bleed. He itched ferociously, and we would wrap him in gauze to try and stop him from scratching. When I took him to the pediatrician, he (the Dr.) was so impressed by #4’s skin that he took photos of it to show at a convention (yay!… Not really, no).

The Dr. and I decided on a shotgun treatment: throw everything we can think of at the allergy in hopes that something works. That didn’t quite do the trick. When #4 was two, we were referred to a pediatric dermatologist in Atlanta. He was also sent to a pediatric allergist in Montgomery- a 70 yr old Southun Gentleman wearing a bowtie and in possession of a pocket full of suckers. Between the salves and other remedies prescribed by the dermatologist, not to mention the series of allergy shots (normally not started on a two-year old, but he was really, really in need of them), by the time #4 was five, his skin was clearing up. When we moved to Statesboro, we located another allergist, who tested him again and said his allergies were gone, the shots worked.

So… Medical Science… It’s a good thing. My son still has scars on the backs of his knees, where the skin cracked open, but the rashes, the horrible bleeding raw spots, the crying all night from itching, are over. What I have now is a happy, clear-skinned, long-legged eight-year old boy, who doesn’t remember the misery, puts his underpants on backwards, and dumps too much Ovaltine in his milk. Read More »

Lectures are Good, but…

You know what? Here’s what I’ve been thinking about. Life does NOT have to be one long, relentless learning experience!

I’m thinking of the parenting issue right now in particular. I know people online who are soon to have babies, and have expressed concern at ‘getting it right’ wherein being a parent is concerned.

I get that, I really do. I wanted to get it right, and for the most part my kids seem to have turned out OK. None of them are in jail; no one has gotten a girl knocked up (hush! I don’t want to hear it!), and they all seem to be relatively well balanced individuals.

I didn’t follow all the rules. My family doesn’t own the biggest, most excessively safe vehicle available. I did not feed the kids organic baby food. I didn’t research which pre-school would get them into Harvard or MIT. I didn’t even buy clothes from Gymboree or a similarly overpriced venue. I used a simple umbrella stroller, while the Escalade of strollers was taking up the entire back end of my special Parenting Magazine-Approved, Safety-Rated Minivan. Read More »

Son and Heir

It was lovely for a while
I thought he had it in him
To do somersaults in the sky
And land with a jubilant whoosh
In a field of marshmallows pink and white Read More »